RADICAL ACCEPTANCE changed my life

These past two weeks in class, we have been reflecting on this concept and the potential it has to help us live more fully. Bert Hellinger said that suffering in humanity comes from not accepting life as it is, from wanting things to be different than they are or were. 

Of course there's nothing wrong with wanting to change or wanting to make things better or different. But what happens when we deny or resist WHAT IS? Something gets stuck and cannot flow. We can't see the vastness of life and its full picture. Personally in my life, the maternity journey has been a big learning of active surrendering and radical acceptance 

I would get really angry and frustrated and I would feel that Life was so unfair to me. But in the end the one that was being unfair with life was me, in not seeing all the beauty around me and all the other possibilities and YESes that were opening for me. I was stuck in "This has to be different, this cannot be it". 

The day that I came across the term Radical acceptance in Tara Brach's podcast, everything changed. So instead of saying "I want this for my life", I changed to "What is life wanting from me right now from this situation?" Answers didn't come straight away, but I would feel peace in my heart and a sense of relief in my body. For some time, that was enough... But I kept the question alive "what is life wanting from me right now"? Some clues came... Deep self-compassion, learning to set clear boundaries, regaining clarity of my purpose in life, recovering my inner strength and tenderness.

What in your life is asking for Radical Acceptance?